There was this popular song in the 80s by Whitney Houston, “The Greatest Love of All,” which apart from being a favorite piece sung during Amateur Singing contests, has also somehow made an impact on me even while I was still very young.
Although at first, I have to admit that I thought it was too obvious and simple. After all, how difficult is it to love yourself??? In my young (and clueless!) mind, I thought you only have to count the number of times most people look at themselves in the mirror, or the number of hours some people spent “preening” themselves. Over time though, I realized that loving oneself is neither really that simple nor easy for a lot of people.
When we were born, we have this innate narcissism in all of us. As we grow older however, because of too many extraneous variables, such egotism may be enhanced, balanced or completely wiped out of our system. The last “consequence” is the most damaging.
Insecurity creeps in even with those who normally have a healthy perception of themselves, particularly after a series of problems, rejections and failures.
March 27, 2008 at 12:19 pm
I am seperating from my hubby. I have been “A’s wife” for so long now, I’m needing to learn who I am all over. It’s tough.